A good friend found out her mother has stage 3 lung cancer-How do I help her deal with this ?
Jul 10, 2010 in
Lung Cancer Questions
I want to be there as a friend to help her get through this and I also want to be there to see if there is something that we can do for her Mom-they opened her up yesterday and then told them she has stage 3 lung cancer and they couldn’t remove anything. What is her Mother’s chances-and what should we be doing to get her to the right doctors?
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6 comments
Charlotte on July 10, 2010 at 7:25 am
My father had cancer, and I shall tell you something now… it will not be easy for your friend. To see a loved one who has always been a strong person go through such a degrading illness is painful. You have already proved yourself as a wonderful person and a true friend by seeking advise off others to improve your friend and her mothers situation!
With my father, we made sure that we got a second opinion, he had bowel cancer, the doctors said that he could have the tumor removed and then start on chemotherapy, but the cancer only got worse. We went to several doctors, but they all came out with the same answer, and in the end all we could do is make sure that he was as comfortable as possible, until his last day.
I am not for one second saying that your friends mother shall have the same outcome as my dads there have been many people who have survived cancer, but the only thing you can all do is be strong, seek a second opinion (to give you piece of mind) and remain positive! I hope I have helped you in some way…?
Love and light
charlotte xxx
Patti H on July 10, 2010 at 7:25 am
My dad had Stage IV and lived for a year after diagnosis. Depending on the age of your friend, I would have her get involved, get on message boards and forums for caregivers of people with lung cancer. That will give her a feeling that she is doing something productive and helpful. Plus, she can keep her mom’s spirirts up too, as there will be many postings of longer -than-expected survival times, etc. And of course, just listen to your friend. The initial dignosis time is very very painful for everyone. It will get a little easier to talk about as time goes on. You are a good friend!
You M on July 10, 2010 at 7:25 am
The first thing you should do is suggest they get a second opinion, and maybe a third opinion. Different doctors often say different things. Encourage your friend’s family to go to the best hospital in the area.
Beyond that, the most important thing is to listen to your friend and give her emotional support. But it’s also important to remember that this will be a difficult and confusing time for her family, and if you try too hard to be there for them, you may just end up burdening them. For example, when your friend wants to talk about it, talk about it with her — but don’t bring it up when she doesn’t want to talk about it. Don’t try to give her too many ideas on what she can do for her mother, because it may just get really confusing. Just give her encouragement. And unless it’s quite obvious that her mother won’t make it through this, don’t talk as if her mother is going to die (for example, don’t say "Your mom has meant so much to everyone," etc.) Just say "I know your mom is strong and will do everything she can to fight this, and I know she has a great family who will support her battle."
Micheal on July 10, 2010 at 7:25 am
Your friends got a hard time and you should be a shoulder to cry on person. There is a lot of story about survival cancer lately. Don’t let your friends and his mother lost hope to keep trying and your role as a motivator is much appreciated. There is a lot of secondary medical method can be applied. Try search in the internet for the best remedy around the world. Keep supporting each other. And you could get more info and tips from the source i was read before.
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kenzi on July 10, 2010 at 7:25 am
Look into the Hallelujah Acres Diet!!! It’s a vegan diet. My mom and I are both vegans to try to stay away from cancer. This diet HAS cured people of cancers, tumors, etc. I highly recommend you look in to it and tell her about it! But, I will tell you, some people have discovered this diet to late…. if you are going to say something to her, say it ASAP!!!
Website:
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